The vast majority of parents in New Hampshire and across the country are willing to make great sacrifices to ensure the happiness and well-being of their children. Unfortunately, this desire could cause them to stay in an unhappy marriage to protect the children. In many cases, however, it may be better for children to have two parents who live happily apart from one another as opposed to parents who live together and fight constantly. While divorce can be a difficult transition for all involved, there are ways for parents to help their children through it.
First, it may be helpful for parents to present a united front when breaking the news to their children. By discussing it in short, simple terms, children can fully understand the situation without being overwhelmed with complicated details. Reassuring children that they have no responsibility for their parents' decision to split can also help them.
While a divorce can be an emotionally stressful time for a husband and wife, refraining from arguing in front of the children is an important goal. Additionally, allowing children to spend time with their other parent without guilt or concerns about leaving the other parent behind is likely in their best interest. Maintaining a healthy relationship with both parents can be important for the child's overall well-being.
Additionally important to remember is that a divorce is a major life event for children. Even relatively minor transitions can affect children in obvious ways; realizing that a child may act out or regress can allow New Hampshire parents to appropriately respond to such behavior. Although the transition may not be easy for some families, ultimately children can benefit from parents who are happier alone but can still come together to make decisions to protect the best interest of their children.
Source: The Huffington Post, "7 Ways To Help Your Kids Get Through Divorce", Dr. Kurt Smith, March 22, 2017