A divorce typically occurs because you weren’t happy with your spouse or the relationship that you had with them. However, just because your marriage didn’t work out doesn’t mean that you can’t have a positive experience. This is generally true whether the divorce is settled inside or outside of a New Hampshire courtroom.
Treat others with respect
Perhaps the best way to have a positive divorce is to treat others the way that you would like to be treated. For example, you probably wouldn’t enjoy being belittled by your spouse or having your children used as a negotiating tool during the settlement process. Therefore, you should make sure to treat your spouse with kindness and to avoid getting your children involved in a dispute between the two of you.
Therapy may be a good option
It’s hard to be there for others when you feel as if you are dealing with your divorce by yourself. Therefore, you may want to consider working with a therapist to process your emotions in a safe and healthy manner. It may also be worthwhile to bring your children to a therapist so that they also have a place to feel heard and validated.
Act like your kids are watching
Your children are going to learn a lot about adversity as a result of your divorce. They are also going to learn a lot about how people deal with adversity by watching how you handle yourself before, during and after your divorce is finalized. Therefore, it’s important to act in a calm, mature and responsible manner throughout this process.
Acting in a rational manner during a divorce may make it easier to obtain custody or other rights to your children. If you do win custody rights, you may also be entitled to child support payments. Remaining calm can also make it easier to stay focused on your quest to obtain alimony, control of a bank account or other assets that you might need in a settlement.