During any divorce, emotions can run high, and communication often becomes strained. Unfortunately, this difficult time is fertile ground for a new form of abuse – digital abuse.
What is digital abuse?
Digital abuse is a form of domestic violence that uses technology to control, harass or intimidate a partner. It can happen even when you’re physically apart from your abuser. Here are some common signs:
- Constant text messages or calls demanding to know your whereabouts
- Pressuring you to share passwords to your accounts
- Using GPS or spyware to track your movements, with or without your consent
- Posting embarrassing photos or videos of you online without permission
- Impersonating you on social media
These and other actions can make you feel trapped, scared and powerless. Recognizing these behaviors is the first step toward protection and empowerment, especially as you navigate the process of ending the relationship.
Digital abuse and your divorce
Digital abuse can significantly impact the divorce process and outcomes. It can complicate divorce negotiations by creating a power imbalance. This dynamic can make it all but impossible to reach agreements cooperatively, making litigation necessary.
Abuse can also affect your privacy and safety. Set strict privacy settings on your devices and accounts, and be careful about sharing personal information online. Don’t share your location, and save any evidence of digital abuse, like texts, emails and screenshots, as they can be essential for legal protection.
If you have children, consider their digital safety during custody and visitation talks. Digital abuse can disrupt co-parenting and may indicate controlling or harmful behavior. In such cases, the court may need to limit the abusive parent’s access to the children or require supervised visits.
Protecting yourself and moving forward
If you recognize signs of digital abuse in your relationship, it’s time to take action. Reach out to a trusted friend or family member for support. Speak with a counselor, your attorney and other professionals to understand what you can do to protect yourself legally, financially and physically.
You have the right to feel safe and respected during a divorce, both online and offline. With the right information and support, you can protect yourself and move forward with confidence.